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    11 months ago

    If I hosted a holiday meal and made most of the stuff myself, I’d accept small amounts to cover stuff in the form of gift cards or something, but the thought of demanding anything, or accepting cash just feels gross.

    If it was a burden, I’d ask for assistance or for someone else to host. Or make it “bring a dish for everyone” style.

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      11 months ago

      I know someone who demanded 25¢ for the cost of text message sent to invite them for a dinner cooked for them that they were eating… while they were literally stuffing their mouth with food that cost way more than a quarter. They did not get invited to another impromptu gathering after that.

      Some people have no understanding or awareness.

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        I think, if the oven were still hot, I’d show them the quarter, toss it in the oven, and say “youll be able to get your money when the oven cools down from the food I made for you.” and see if there’s even a hint of a glimmer of a spark of recognition that maaaaybe they should have shut the fuck up about 25 cents.

        Definitely never getting another invite.

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      No, if you’re hosting then you’re hosting. People can bring food if it’s a potluck, otherwise I’m the fucking chef and I create the menu. Everybody relies on me to create good food. It’s not just my responsibility. It’s my right and my privilege.

      I’ll go to somebody else’s place another time and I sure won’t be offering any money, just like I’m not accepting any when I host.

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        11 months ago

        You went 0-100 and hostile completely unnecessarily, my dude. Maybe take a moment to reflect on why.

        My sister never asks or expects compensation for hosting Christmas, but I always give her a gift card with something on it for local stores. She’s been kind enough to prepare everything so we don’t have to, I’ll be kind and give a little food budget back. It’s not a lot, certainly not enough to cover the meal, but it’s something to show I appreciate it more than (what could be hollow) words. It’s something I choose to do, and nobody is gonna make me feel bad over it.