• Cethin@lemmy.zip
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    28 days ago

    I didn’t take umbrage with your original comment. I just pointed out that it’s wrong and you should stop. I was annoyed when you seemed to double down.

    Intersex people are just clear that “basic biology” is a non-functioning understanding of what biology is. Intersex people couldn’t exist if what you learned in high school bio was the end. It’s a clear indication that sex is not just some binary thing. It’s a very complex thing. Even non-intersex people have different developments in the growth due to different hormone levels and other things, and we can even control hormone levels artificially. It’s very complex, and the only useful term is AFAB/AMAB, and then more detailed medical records.

    Then to cap it off you made sure to declare that I’ve been “properly educated”, so sayeth you. So from here on out, I need to use the right language or… else?

    Yeah, use the more accurate language, or else we know you’re choosing not to. Nothings going to happen. Everyone gets to make choices in life. I can’t make you do anything, but from one cis-gendered person to another, it’s not difficult to be better. It’s just a choice.

    You’re getting really offended by someone just informing you the language you used was wrong. It wasn’t even a particularly insulting comment.

    Where do you personally draw the line? Are you going to stop saying ASAB now that you know some people don’t like it? Are you going to keep saying “trans” even though some people feel like it marginalizes the community and feels too informal to discuss complex gender identities?

    I rarely have a use for either term, so I draw the line where it’s useful for others. If you’re a doctor, that’s where it matters, and after gender confirmation, your “sex” is a lot more complicated. After a while or hormone therapy, you’re more akin to your chosen sex than your birth sex. That’s why the “biologically male/female” term isn’t useful. It’s assuming their birth sex is their current sex for medical purposes, but it’s more complex than that. Sex assigned at birth is useful because it limits it to that period specifically, and your medical records tell the whole story.

    The AEI article you posted seems to ignore this fact. It seems to say your birth sex is the important factor. It’s just one of many. For future development, the one your hormones correspond with is likely more important.

    The CLR article mirrors what I’ve said earlier:

    “By referring instead to sex assigned at birth, transgender rights advocates convey that “biological sex” is not simple, static, or binary and that gender identity also has biological aspects.”

    For whatever reason people online are more interested in being outraged

    I agree. People should be more calm, even when corrected. Being outraged doesn’t help. It only acts to cement our mind in preconceived ideas. Changing our minds when provided more information that counters our previous beliefs is something that should be commended, not fled from.

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      27 days ago

      Got it.

      I apologize.

      You’re a the most qualified person on the internet for cisgender, trans, and intersex word policing.

      Now that I know and if I don’t change, you’ll make sure to report it to the cisgender police for trans activities special victims unit…

      It’s interesting you chose the statement “it’s not difficult to be better, it’s just a choice”. You could have started this entire interaction with “hey dude, just a heads up that a lot of transphobes use phrases like ‘biological male’ to invalidate trans identities”, but instead you took the opportunity to speak down to me and made sure I was now “educated” and that I can stop using wrong speak.

      Thank God you’re here as an ally to make people question why those of us on this side of the fence can’t even get along internally.

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        27 days ago

        You’re a the most qualified person on the internet for cisgender, trans, and intersex word policing.

        I definitely am not.

        Now that I know and if I don’t change, you’ll make sure to report it to the cisgender police for trans activities special victims unit…

        I haven’t reported or downvoted you.

        It’s interesting you chose the statement “it’s not difficult to be better, it’s just a choice”. You could have started this entire interaction with “hey dude, just a heads up that a lot of transphobes use phrases like ‘biological male’ to invalidate trans identities”, but instead you took the opportunity to speak down to me and made sure I was now “educated” and that I can stop using wrong speak.

        I don’t think I spoke down to you, but you are welcome to your opinion. I tried to inform you.

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          27 days ago

          “I don’t think I spoke down to you, but you are welcome to your opinion. I tried to inform you.”

          Really? You seriously can re-read your comment and don’t see how shitty it comes across when addressing it to someone who used a word you disagree with unwittingly?

          “Assigned male at birth is the term you want to use. “Biological male” is a term used by transphobes to spread misinformation.”

          Not informative at all. It’s you telling me what word I want to use, while implying I’m a transphobe attempting to spread misinformation.

          " Biology is very complex and not your elementary school version of biology. What makes someone “biologically” male? Is it having a penis, having testis, having more testosterone than estrogen, having XY chromosomes? These can all be intermixed with other characteristics."

          Here’s the fun part where you state I have an elementary level understanding of biology.

          “The “basic biology” definition doesn’t work in the real world, and the people using it are actively trying to harm trans people or ignorant. Now you’re more informed so ignorance isn’t an excuse anymore.”

          Here’s the cherry on top where you talk about me not knowing how to discuss complex topics in the real world or that I may be actively trying to harm trans people at worst or ignorant at best. Lastly, in case you know I’m not a transphobe that my ignorance can no longer be an excuse.

          You seriously couldn’t possibly think of any other combination of words to get your point across without making me out to be someone that’s intentionally skirting the line of ignorance and bigotry in an effort to harm trans people?