Roughly five years ago I was looking to contact a friend I knew from college. Long story short I didn’t go about it the right way and her parents got mad at me.
Fast forward five years and I feel incredibly remorseful about what I did. I’ve been told I should just forget about the whole ordeal, but the whole situation lives rent-free in my head no matter how hard I try not to think about it. I don’t want to risk disturbing her again, but I also don’t want to pull a Matthew Broderick and never apologize/admit responsibility for a grave mistake. Any thoughts?
Write it down in a letter. Like, take a piece of paper and pen and physically write down your thoughts on the issue.
Do not send the letter! But forcing yourself to organize your thoughts so you can write it on paper can help you externalize your feelings. And maybe help you find some closure.
You can also burn the paper afterwards, as a kind of ritual to “put it on God’s hands” kinda thing.
Not religious in any way whatsoever.
Ok.
I still think the act of comparing and writing a letter can help you sort out your thoughts.
The “religious” part is, well, irrelevant.