Interesting perspective. I’m 33 and I watched My So Called Life religiously. I forgot he was in it, I know him most from Dallas Buyer’s Club in a supporting role. I’ve never heard of 30 seconds to Mars until now (but if you name a song I’d probably have a light bulb moment and recognize the song, not the band)
When I was in college I had school health insurance so I was on some meds that helped my mental health but made me really fat. When i graduated I lost my health insurance, went off my meds, and lost 80lbs in less than a year. People asked me all the time “whats your secret” and they really didn’t like when the answer was “I’m off my meds and want to die, but at least I’m cute now”. At school I was on a meal plan and ate three healthy meals a day and used the school gym 4-6 days a week. I was fat but fit. After graduating I didn’t go to a gym again for about 7 years and still now don’t really eat very healthy or regularly. I’m less heavy than I was in school but I’m not strong or muscle-y like I was when I was fat.
The worst part is, imo, I have health insurance again, but I’d rather be depressed than go back to being fat, because society is so cruel to fat people. Especially on the internet where people are like “it really IS just as simple as keeping a caloric deficit”. That’s just not true.
Anyway, it made sense in my head to respond to you when I started this, but now I think I’ve gotten lost in the weeds a little. I’m not trying to argue with you about anything, I’m just sharing my experience.
Hope everyone can find one thing they love about their bodies today xx
$2.92 til Friday :,-)
You are entitled to disagree, and as i said before, I do not know Chelsea Mannings’ stance on the matter. Some trans people do refer to their past tense selves with their previous names, or even do not change names after coming out or transitioning. You are correct that court documents will not be altered.
The point that I am making is that, in general, it is considered disrespectful and quite rude to dead name and misgender someone unless they have given you express permission to do so. It’s really not a matter of being technically correct, it’s just a matter of being kind.
Unless you are friends with Chelsea (which I am not), or unless you are directly quoting something out of the court document (and even then, you can just say “Manning”), there’s no need to use the name that she used to go by, and there’s no need to use he/him pronouns. We’re talking about Chelsea Manning right now, but this goes for any trans person that you are not personally acquainted with. Another example would be to say that Caitlin Jenner is an Olympic Medal winner, regardless of what she looked like or what name she won those medals under, or what category she won them in.
Again, not an attack. I’m just making noise.
Hope your night is going well.
(But fuck Caitlin Jenner, she’s a bad person)
A lot of people assume this is the correct way to speak because it’s chronologically correct, but the general consensus in the trans community is that she was always Chelsea Manning, and always was a woman, and the time that she spent using the other name and gender need not be reflected upon. I do not know how Chelsea Manning personally feels about this, and every individual is entitled to their own respect, however the general etiquette when you do not know is to NOT deadname or misgender them, regardless of what era of their life you are referring to.
This is not an attack. Just a PSA.
Have a peaceful evening.
I don’t have the energy to cite my sources right now, but I remember hearing that IUD procedures went up something wild like 900% right after the 2016 election. The stats are definitely out there somewhere.
Be well, stay safe xx
I got my fallopian tubes removed the last time he got elected. Really really grateful to my past self, because I do not have health insurance this time around.
Protoyiff has been added to the lexicon. Thank yooooo verymuch.
It’s the 10th of Stan Rawlinson’s 10 Pet Commandments:
-Stay with me on the ultimate difficult journey. Never say, “I can’t bear to watch” or “Let it happen in my absence”. Everything is easier for me if you are there. Remember, regardless of what you do I will always love you.
What a strange, cruel policy from the vet. When I had to put my cat down, my vet had me hold her in my arms while she administered the shot, and then she left the room so it could be just me and my cat til the end. Since I decided to take her body home to bury on my parents’ property, my vet recommended that I show her to my remaining cat so that we could mourn together. She said he would understand what death meant if he got to see her, but he would be distressed more if she just disappeared.
What a hideous policy for everyone involved, shame on this vet/shelter for so many reasons.
Oh, I thought we were talking about my ex husband
Sure, I read your back and forth earlier this morning with that other person, and I agree that if there is even a little room for semantic loopholes, assholes will use it, so it’s better to just be annoyingly specific. At this point in our country’s lifetime, lawmakers should know this, and the crown act should have been so beurocratically definitive of all aspects of hair. But also school officials should be worried about teaching all kids, not this dumb bullshit. :(
xx hope your day is nice and you’re having a good hair day
I’m a white girl. My hairstyle is “long”. It’s my entire personality.
What they are doing to this young man is grotesque, but I’m not at all surprised the superintendent is being so petty. He’s nothing more than an overgrown racist high school bully.
This is a cool new vocabulary word, thank you. Would you consider the aura some people get before migraines to fit this definition?
I just learned this the hard way. I just got laid off and rejected the severance check because in order to get it, we had to sign a thing that said we waived our right to ever sue them for anything
I was never a Twitter user so I didn’t feel the need to become a mastodon user, but I do think that’s very cool, so now I can see stuff on mastodon without having to be a mastadonian? (Ps thanks for chatting)
I still don’t fully understand the fediverse, but I’m starting to. I know that the .world or the .ml or the .ee or whatever are the “instances” and that I can see all the stuff on all of them even tho I use .world. I am sure I will understand it better once I can start using sync again (or at least start understanding it in the capacity in which I’ll be using it). How do I support an instance? I’m also a broke bitch and don’t have a ton of disposable income, but reddit was and lemmy now is a service I appreciate and rely on, so I want to support the people providing said service, although I’m so grateful that I’ve been able to use sync for free for essentially the last decade.
I’m excited and pre-registered. I didn’t pay for sync for reddit, but now that I am more educated about the life of developers and third party apps, I will def pay for sync for lemmy. I have heard good things about some of the existing apps, but I have just been using the web browser while I wait for the sync app to be ready, and I am so ready to download and use it. <3
Oh my, this news is gonna get me in a lot of trouble. Thank you very much xoxo xxx